The Two are United into One

 The Two are United into One

June 20, 2016

Some events have come about, some recent, others not so much, that made me think I should write this particular blog post. And although this post isn't going to be solely about finances, money does play into this based on the fact that money issues and money fights are the #1 cause of divorce in the U.S. today.

In the Late 90's

My ex and I were officially divorced. It was a very painful time for me. And after some grieving, I began to think about what went wrong. Were there any warning signs I missed that would have told me that my marriage was going sour. And years later, I know now that there was plenty of blame to go around. You see, we fought all the time. And not just about big issues, but about small ones too. We were also not truthful to one another either. Even though we were married, it seemed like we were living separate lives. And that's no way to live or have a marriage.

So once I decided to get married again several years later, I made the conscience decision to be an open book in ALL areas of my life to my new bride. I wasn't going to keep any secrets, I wasn't going to lie, I wasn't going to be sneaky or deceitful. And most of all, I wasn't going to argue about every LITTLE thing that happens. I do stand my ground on matters that I think are important, and so does she, and believe me, we have had our share of some good fights, but we worked them out by communicating and compromising with each other.

By doing all that, we have built a relationship based on a solid foundation where we know that we have each other's backs about EVERYTHING. So when I see other couples, married or about to get married, hiding things from one another, all I see is an unhappy marriage that will ultimately lead to a divorce. The bible says it this way, "At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one." Genesis 2:23-24.

I have said it many times, you and your spouse are a team. You need to love, work, live, and act like it all the days of your married lives. And if you're not willing to do that, you don't need to be married. It's not fair to you or your spouse.

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